Sam’s Old Man Marley theories

Home Alone has been a favorite of mine and it came out when I was 1. As I got older, I learned more about the movie. Fact: Old Man Marley was named for Jacob Marley from the classic novel, A Christmas Carol, by Charles Dickens. Here’s are my theories and spoilers in case you haven’t scene Home Alone 1

Buzz the packrat

In the first act Buzz tells Kevin makes a homophobic comment and tells Kevin he wants pray on Kevin’s weaknesses before leaving for Paris. While harassing Kevin, when Old Man Marley is introduced, he’s lying to Kevin the whole time because he just wants to be a childish simpleton

Old Man <Marley’s pep talk

During high school I was in special education and I wanted to make sure my peers knew that even though I had disabilities I didn’t let my demons get the better of me. During my senior year my closest friend who helped me realize I wasn’t an idiot was actually named Kevin and the classes we had in order were Horticulture, English, Political Science and then we had lunch. During the senior graduation party I always made sure I was on top of my studies. As someone who has a talent for theater, that’s who I was in high school. A theater geek who could imitate other people. It wasn’t until we saw Coco together I learned his parents are what I call, “Simpsons Banners”.The only time I use my Judaism is for comedy and being a better person and since I have talents that would make anyone laugh. That’s what I want to focus on because even though I despise things like people taking advantage of, there have been moments where I just want to focus and Old Man Marley’s pep talk helped Kevin (McCallister) recover from his death.

Kevin waves back

I’ve advocated for myself since I was 11. Home Alone may have been a slapstick comedy but the original ending was supposed to be everyone laughing and fade to black. The last thing you that was happened in the final draft of the film was Kevin smiling and Buzz yelling, “Kevin, look what you did to my room!” Kevin waving back told Old Man Marley that Kevin was clearly not afraid of him, As Buzz is related to Kevin Biologically Kevin told Buzz the truth about what happened and for the first time in Buzz’s life, he was proud of Kevin. Instead of having Kevin reimburse him, he actually was amazed.

Final Verdict

While Home Alone might be a children’s film from 1990, there’s a lot of adult jokes in there most of it comes from Joe Pesci and Daniel Stern. Old Man Marley was played by an actor named Robert’s Blossom. Although Blossom is dead, he was known to play elder characters that were always older than him. This theory is dedicated to Michael Brown who is alive. Even though I’m Jewish, Mr. Brown is a great dad to his kids and has seen me perform live at a non-profit and although I am employed, he laughed with me and not at me.

Although I’m Jewish by birth, going gluten free is something I need to do to get ready to make my audience laugh. Donating a collection I’ve had since childhood and during college I tried to encourage other students to donate but due to circumstances beyond my control, I decided to show people that even though college was rough and people treated me like I was an infant, I succeeded and the person who might have hated the most might have left on a work related matter but I didn’t give into peer pressure

(Copyrighted 1989)

 

Sam’s Old Man Marley theories

On being an Autistic Jew: Grief

Here are my reasons for starting this blog:

  1. To show others on the autism spectrum that they’re not alone.
  2. To help parents and educators if they have a child in their lives with autism
  3. To the supposed “Normal” people who just know someone with Autism realize that no two people with Autism are the same.

Now I’m not a mental health counselor or a priest. Just an anonymous guy on the internet making the world a better place by trying to provide hope.

Grief is something we all have to deal with but the way we do on a day to day basis. It’s something we all face. There’s a huge difference between feeling sad and feeling grief. Grief does come from being sad. You can feel sad but not grief. Case in point:

4 years ago Robin Williams committed suicide. Sure I was sad but I never knew him so it was sad but no grief.

Four years ago I made a friend who was a nurse from my synagogue. She had two estranged daughters who wanted nothing to do with her. She met me and it felt like I was her missing son. From elementary school to high school my parents fought for my education, in college I wanted to put myself in the driver’s seat and not rely on my parents and be treated like an equal. I was and I wasn’t.

After my dog Fuzzy died I vowed to finish my degree. I was recognized for student leadership and in student leadership I was treated like an equal but when I was getting my degree, not so much. I don’t want to mention the instructor told me, “All people with Autism are the same.” I should have reported it but I didn’t. Partially because I was scared and confused at why someone would say that.

Anyway back on track enough digressing. My friend who was a nurse went to the same synagogue. I have a lot of fond memories of her being a warm compassionate person. Then at the tail end of April I receive a phone call that no person should receive. Well 2. I received a phone call and the person who told me that she was with g-d now. I felt like someone had assassinated my friend. Suicide is something should have to deal with. It hurts the victims .

The victims are the ones who suffer the most. I won’t go into too many details about my friend but that’s something for September. I texted my best friend and his response was “NOOOOOO! I AM SO SORRY SAM!!! :(” my other friend l told him over the phone and I told him it was a suicide and got a, “People die! Be a man and get over it.” my job coach said the exact same thing.

It was around this time I needed to have a little faith in g-d. It was hard because the old rabbi from my synagogue was retired and the junior one from my Bar Mitzvah, I hadn’t tracked down but my mom told me to contact the cantor. Instead of saying, “Be an adult and get over it.” I got this, “You’re going to feel like crap for a while and that’s ok.” Around the first anniversary of the death, I got back in touch with the junior rabbi from my Bar Mitzvah.

As a young adult, the junior rabbi felt more like someone you could sit around roasting marshmallows with. In fact, one of my memories of him was at a Jewish summer camp and he discussed Mi Chamocha. For those of you who aren’t Jewish, Mi Chamocha translates to “Who is like you?” the Junior Rabbi said that these words weren’t said by Moses but by a man named Nakhshone. I’m sure I could spell it in Hebrew but my computer doesn’t have a Hebrew translation. Anyhow, after the first year anniversary of the death, I told myself I should find things to remember my friend by. Her favorite movie, things she did etc.

As the second anniversary came and went a movie came out called Won’t You Be My Neighbor? A documentary about Fred Rogers. After leaving the theater, I left the theater feeling better about life. Mr. Rogers might have been ordained by the Presbyterian church but he didn’t let his religious beliefs be the deciding factor of the show. I think Mr. Rogers might secretly be Yoda. I’m kidding but in all honesty if you are feeling grief, talk to a counselor, tell some friends you care about. Being an “adult” means you’re honest about how you feel. If you haven’t seen it. Here’s a link to the trailer. I’ll wait for you guys to finish the blog before I continue

 

If you haven’t seen this movie, It will hit you where you live. I’m not going to lie, this movie had to compete with Avengers infinity war because even though this came out two months after, this movie was not only what I needed to help recover from my aunt’s death but my friend’s suicide too.

If you are grieving, I highly suggest talking to the people you truly care about and you feel like they care about you. Let them know about a death, If they love you, they won’t have you wave a magic wand to feel better. They will tell you they are sorry for your loss and ask if you want to talk about it. You can heal from a bike injury. Grieving is like having a metal plate put in after a surgery. Your wounds heal but there will always be a scar.

What more can I say about grief? Just remember to help others who are grieving, I want to propose a challenge to everyone. After you finish reading this blog, say to 5 people who you don’t know well or would like to get to know better, “Have a nice day.” You’ll feel better

Have a Nice day

Sam

On being an Autistic Jew: Grief

On being an Autistic Jew – Advice

For those of you on the spectrum you need to remember you can’t choose who your family members are but you can only carve your path. I didn’t like getting my associate’s because I wasn’t treated like an equal. Even among my peers. That’s why I only had 5 friends by the time I graduated and my ex’s takeover of my degree. Only YOU can be your own life. Don’t let anyone manipulate you into doing their work.

I have a lot of goals in my life and the best thing you can do is ask yourself is what do YOU want?

On being an Autistic Jew – Advice

On being an Autistic Jew Part 4 – Bar Mitzvah

Ok so now we’re going to be diving into my past and I’ll delve deeper about it because it helped shape who I am. High School and Middle School my depression was at its highest point. Teenage years are a pain in the neck for ANYONE! Since I was 9, My aspiration was to be a comedian who owned his own Restaurant with Joke Shop, Candy Shop, Bakery, Ice Cream Parlor that would show movies. I’d have a stage to do my comedy.

So when a Jewish boy gets to be about 11-12, It’s time for Bar Mitzvah Training. Girls can start as early as 12. All the preparation is a test. It’s not easy because you’re slowly transitioning into adulthood and puberty is very cruel. You also have to give a speech. Rabbis Jim Mirel and Michael Latz were the Rabbis at my synagogue at the time of my Bar Mitzvah. Mirel was the Senior and Latz the Junior and unfortunately he left after a year.

Mirel is retired now. Eventually I started the History of The Simpsons. So we’ll touch more on that later.

For me my Bar Mitzvah and the portion of the Torah was all about rules and boundaries. Because of this I consider myself a pretty mature person. Though my inner 13 year old is still alive. I know we talked a bit about my life but for all other young Jewish Autistics this is for you

  • The day will come – Just be patient
  • The Rabbi is there to guide you
  • YOU are In charge of the service
  • It’s all about your battle with puberty (joke)

The Service is usually depends on the length of the Saturday Service at your synagogue. For the parents of your autistic child:

  • Each one is different
  • You know your child

When I was called to the Torah, I still remember the first 3 words of my portion:

“Ki Ani Adonai” I am g-d, but it being about rules and boundaries… As I got into middle school my depression got worse and when I was 14, Autism was presented to me again but I still wanted to be a comedian. I did get it officially when I was 17 but that’s beside the point.

The most important point I can give in preparing for a Bar/Bat Mitzvah is…

Don’t give up! I’m not the most religious Jew but I will tell you \that it’s worth going through.

So It helped shape me.

We’ll talk further about high school even though we touched on it in Part 1: I’m going to give advice because Education is the most important thing.

Until my next one folks…

Sam

On being an Autistic Jew Part 4 – Bar Mitzvah

On being a Jew with Autism: Advocacy

In this day and age people either know someone who has Autism or are Autistic themselves. I wrote my last blog to set my foot in the door. As someone who believes in Advocacy, I want to do things like public speaking and standup comedy and I write, I want to eventually open my own restaurant and be on Saturday Night Live and the Simpsons.

On my mother’s side, I’m the 3rd eldest of 8 grandchildren. On my Father’s side I’m the eldest of 4 grandchildren. I’m human just like anyone else but I’m the only one with Autism on both sides who’s willing to make a change for people with Autism. In part 3, we’ll discuss education.

For those unfamiliar with A Bar Mitzvah, it requires a lot of Education, Preparation, Determination and it’s all about the destination. My portion, Sh’emini, was all about boundaries and rules. I remember the first 3 words, “Ki Ani Adonai” Honestly I don’t remember the rest. The Rabbi is only there to help, but YOU are in charge during that service.

My Bar Mitzvah was 7 months after the 9/11 terrorist attack. 3 years after my Bar Mitzvah when I was a high school Sophomore, I spoke at an interfaith service in Downtown Seattle. My Speech was well received and had people saying I did a great job with it. Public speaking isn’t for all autistic people, in fact, it takes a rare breed to step forward.

Towards the end of my sophomore year, I was confirmed and we each needed to give a confirmation speech. I was not afraid to admit to having Autism. If I could get a job working at a mental illness center as a desk receptionist, I’d have no problem. Maybe speak publicly for Autism Speaks or a supporter of some Tourette’s group But, I digress

As I got into college, I attended not 1, not 2, but 10 leadership conferences. I met 2 of them through student leadership one of which got my degree, the other one was there for the degree and he got involved with student leadership. Two of them I knew in high school.

So here’s my advice to people who are on the spectrum:

Only YOU know your life. YOU are in the driver’s seat.

Take charge of YOUR life.

A sense of humor will help get you far

Make the best with what you have

and Finally

Be Patient! I cannot stress this point enough. Keep yourself busy with multiple hobbies

 

To those who aren’t on the spectrum:

Be Understanding – No two autistic people are alike. I know I said that last time, but you have to realize that life is full of gray areas.

Share strategies – Just because someone has Autism, doesn’t mean that they don’t care.

Don’t treat them like they’re stupid – People with Autism have different ways of looking at something that you might not have thought of

 

Finally a mutual point for both parties

Respect boundaries – If someone doesn’t smoke and you do, find a way to compromise. Life is what you make of it, you can only make your life work according to you. I started this blog since I actually want to get a job at some sort of advocacy mentall illness focus group. For Example, right now I currently make meals at Hero House. Hero House is a wellness center dedicated to helping people seek employment and just a positive place for people. My dream job is to be an advocate for a non profit such as Hero House. Eventually I want to speak for something like that, but for an Autism focus group. If you’d like to find out more about Hero House, visit our website at:

http://www.herohouse.org

If you are interested in becoming a member and would like to try one of our lunches, they are $2. This might seem like a shameless plug but I’m trying to promote this non profit. Thank you

 

On being a Jew with Autism: Advocacy

On being a Jew with Autism

For those of you unaware, April is Autism awareness month. I was diagnosed with Autism then Asperger Syndrome at age 4 and then it was brought up again when I was 14. One point I cannot stress enough is no two people with Autism are the same. I also want to point out that people with Autism aren’t idiots. Sure it might take us longer to do something but that doesn’t mean we’re stupid. I can remember things better and can understand idioms and expressions and perhaps what i’m proudest of is being able to make and sustain eye contact.

Let’s start with Elementary School, I made a few friends but when I was in 5th grade there was a student who blurted out, “”Jewish People Suck!”. Now this is something that I remember to this day. I’m sure if I ran into this student today, he’d be surprised.that I remember but even though I had friends in grade school it felt hard to fit in and I only felt happy when I was watching Pokemon, Digimon or Power Rangers. As an adult I have a nostalgia for all 3 and that’s why I did my history of Power Rangers and don’t worry I’ll cover the Alola Anime eventually for history of Pokemon but I digress.

As I reached Middle School, my Bar Mitzvah was coming up and the junior rabbi has made quite the impact on my life. He took me to a water park for participating in his summer torah study. I remember that and during the climax of my Bar Mitzvah he handed me a book and said, “Sam, there’s no blessing in here for The Simpsons but as you get older you’ll figure out to do with your love for them.” We’ll get to those wise words later.

Before entering my Freshman year of High School I was interviewed on the radio for my action figure collection it currently has over 3000 pieces. When I turned 16, I decided to go public with my diagnosis of Autism. My high school health teacher¬† and the school counselor,¬† I still admire to this day. Ms. Ewing taught us the importance of time management and how a true teacher doesn’t choose favorites but learns from their students and doesn’t do it for the money.

After I graduated from high school, my parents filed for a divorce. I went through the usual range of emotions for a divorce; felt like it was my fault, I didn’t know what to do exactly. My dad has a steady girlfriend now and I like her a lot. I graduated high school with presidential honors.

I currently have an associate’s degree from college and while I was in college I attended 10 leadership conferences and made a few close friends. My friend Katie who has a traumatic brain injury took a shining to me right away, not because of having autism or being Jewish but because I was really honest and not a fake. She describes my sense of humor as being very bland and very British.

In the winter of 2010, I was 21. I went on what’s known as a birthright tour. During my fall quarter, I was cyber bullied and my dog passed away. On the plus side, I got accepted to go on my birthright tour, which was amazing because I wasn’t the only Jewish person with Autism in that group. I became fast friends with one of my tour mates who shared a mutual love of movies with me. On the third day, she turned to me and said, “I’m impressed. I’ve never met anyone who knew this much about Power Rangers. You should be proud.” Up until this point I was ashamed of my Power Rangers fandom. Even though I watch reruns with a friend I’ve long since put my fandom to bed.

After graduating with my associate’s in 2014, I met Alexandra Olson. A woman who went to my Synagogue. I answered her questions about Judaism and she heard what I had to say about Super Sentai and Power Rangers. Comment below if you’d like to hear more about Alexandra and my friendship. On July 26, 2015, I swam my first mile. I did 4 sets of 9. We can all agree that 2016 was a horrible year. My positives for that year were getting all the original Pokemon for my action figure collection,and I received a pin for donating 3 gallons of blood.

Let’s talk about last year. On July 3, 2017 I was able to swim a mile uninterrupted and on October 5 of the same year, I swam my first two mile swim with a two mile break. So what does all this have to do with autism? Well I wanted to share that I’ve done a lot of things that I’m proud of because Saturday is my birthday and feel free to leave a comment saying Happy Birthday.

As my birthday comes close I want to share with you the things I’m proudest of:

  • My figurine collection – I have over 3000 pieces yet they’re all organized and in Ziploc bags by Genre
  • My cooking – Not only is this a valuable life skill, but it really helps bring joy to others
  • Graduating College – during college I attended 10 leadership seminars and through student leadership I met my best friends. Although it’s an associate’s, now I just want to find a job and then consider going back to school
  • Not being ashamed of being Autistic – As a teenager, this made me a little head strong but as I got older, it got easier
  • Being able to make and sustain eye contact – A lot of people with Autism don’t understand the importance of things like this but I do.

Before I wrap up, I want to discuss the junior rabbi’s last words and how they effected me from my Bar Mitzvah. Once again the words were; “Sam, there’s no blessing in this book here for The Simpsons but if you look hard enough you’ll figure out what to do with your love for them.” It wasn’t until November that I knew what I had to do. That’s why I started the History of The Simpsons. I still want to do this and I’m not stopping my blog about it until The Simpsons ends

To sum up I’d like to thank the junior rabbi who although he hasn’t seen me in 16 years, is still a good source of wisdom for me and I hope to share some of my recipes with him and maybe a couple of laughs too. When he was with my synagogue his sermons were always right on the mark. I also want to thank my high school health teacher who has followed my life into adulthood and if she’s reading this, I want her to know that my next fitness goal is to swim 2 miles uninterrupted and at the time of this blog’s release, I can currently swim 51 laps uninterrupted.

I’d also like to thank Jon AKA Mr. Weenie for being a good friend and seeing me first and my autism second. I’ve met a bunch of power rangers fans over the course of my life. He’s definitely one of the nicest ones. If Jon should ever come up to Seattle, he should be prepared for some good food made by yours truly.

Another person I’d like to thank is my tour mate. Our tour was 8 years ago come december of this year and honestly without her, I’d probably still be ashamed of being a fan of super sentai and wouldn’t have opened up to my best friend in college about it.

The next to last person I’d like to thank is my friend Josh. We went to the same Jewish summer camp together. We were co-counselors for the younger kids and have been close ever since. My brother might have recruited him for B’nai Brith Youth Organization but because of a mutual acquaintance, Josh and I have become thick as thieves.

The last person I’d like to thank is you, the reader. I want you to remember that not all people with Autism are the same and if anyone tells you otherwise, just know that is a very slanderous thing to say. Have a wonderful day and thanks for reading.

 

On being a Jew with Autism

Top 10 things to know about people on the Autism Spectrum

Sure this movie is a bit outdated now but I used it in High School to raise awareness for Asperger Syndrome but it’s now called Autism Spectrum Disorder. Welcome my friends to another Top 10 for Sam’s thoughts. Remember that this is all opinion based. Anyone sensitive to someone else’s opinion might want to stop reading. but before we get started I’d like to thank Pilar Lopez an internship coordinator at Bellevue College who even though she has two autistic sons, realizes that even though the cat was out of the bag when she met me, just saw my strengths realized my talents in leadership and was by my impressed with my abilities one of which was being able to speak Spanish. The other person I would like to thank is my health teacher from high school who taught me that I am better than “Normal.” Nowadays I just say that Normal is just a type of Pokemon. With that out of the way let’s started:

10. Just because two people have it doesn’t mean they get along: During my college years I was bullied a lot and while I don’t want to go into details let’s just say I got the short end of the stick. I had to deal with so much bullying it felt like Middle School

9. What you see in the movies, isn’t always true: A lot of people like to romanticize Autism and Asperger’s. Rain Man was good for the late 80’s, Forrest Gump did a great job of capturing it with Bubba. Adam was good but not great, not all Autistic people want to remain single for the rest of their lives! I give The Story of Luke an A for effort but the movie fell flat in some areas.

8. Learn from our stories: I decided to publish a memoir called Shattering the Ice. I want to get my book out there, not just so that I can be an autism advocate on the spectrum but as a Suicide prevention advocate, blood donor etc. I try to be a good person and I believe that I am thanks to some recuperation

7. Some of us can understand Idioms: Autism is a vast a wide spectrum. For some of us, Idioms are too over the top. I can understand them like, “adding salt to the wound” etc.But others may not

6. No two people with Autism are the same. We all have different areas of social skills that we need to work on in some area or another. Some might have it harder finding a job

5. We CAN get things like Humor and Sarcasm: For me Humor and Sarcasm come naturally since I am a comic. I want to make sure that people realize that people with Autism aren’t one trick emotionless robots

4. Just because social skills are harder, doesn’t mean we’re introverted. I actually like being around certain people. The ones that treat me with respect and dignity. Because I have a diagnosis of Autism doesn’t mean I’m not social and outgoing.

3. We have different ways of looking at the world: I contribute to the world by making people laugh, learning to cook etc. Just because we might not see the world YOUR way doesn’t mean it’s the wrong way. You shouldn’t judge someone because they don’t think the same way you you do.

2. We have more than one interest. Now this is one I’m really getting tired of. My ex thought my only interests were stand-up comedy and the power rangers. The latter I outgrew, I am doing a blog chroncling my personal history with the show. I have a multitude of interests such as:

  • Anime
  • Movies
  • Donating Blood
  • Swimming
  • Camping
  • Writing
  • Standup Comedy
  • Cooking
  • Blogging
  • Script Writing
  • Tokusatsu
  • Mimicking Different Accents and Dialects
  • Marvel and DC
  • Collecting Figurines
  • Different foods
  • Democratic Party

Do you see Power Rangers on here? No? That’s because it’s not so much a part of my life as they are childhood memories. My Dino Thunder VS Abaranger blog should be ready soon

And finally the most important thing to know about Autism is…

We are NOT Idiots!!!! Sure, social skills might be harder for us. But we just have a lot of hurdles and barriers that we break down almost every day. I have people I dislike as does everyone. There is absolutely no reason to treat someone with Autism like a child. Believe you me, I have been dealt this hand. Anyway if you encounter an autistic adult, see what gifts they offer. Don’t treat them like they have one interest and are 12. Someone with Autism might invent something useful #blackfridaymexicanfood

I think I have gone on my soap box long enough, that’s my time. I’ll see you later

Top 10 things to know about people on the Autism Spectrum